Taylor Kreiss, Founder of Oughtology
“We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.” - Friedrich Nietzsche
I have two left feet, so I’m glad Nietzsche wrote metaphorically.
With this quote, I think he was saying something true and profound about
the importance of play – that it’s an essential part of living a good
and balanced life.
What I hope to convey are some philosophical, scientific and personal
reasons for why we should all get serious about messing around. I hope
that by reading this, you’ll feel compelled to actually pencil in some
time for more frivolity.
Philosophically Speaking
Are you familiar with the bestselling book
The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying?
As the title suggests, it’s about what dying people wish they had done
differently. The information is philosophically valuable because it
sheds light on what we ought to do now to ensure we use our time
correctly and live our best possible lives.
Here are the top five regrets:
1.“I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
2.“I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
3.“I wish I had let myself be happier.”
4.“I wish I’d had the courage to express my true self.”
5.“I wish I’d lived a life true to my dreams instead of doing what others expected of me.”
In America, we have a mild obsession with “success” in financial and
status-building terms. There’s a productivity imperative that’s always
nagging us to work work work and “make something of ourselves.” But
dying people rarely look back at their lives and wish they’d spent more
time rat-racing. Instead, we tend to wish we had prioritized enjoyment
and authentic pursuits with the people we loved.
With this philosophy in mind, play isn’t just a bit of foolishness or
an indulgence. Instead, it’s integral to living the good life. It helps
us avoid regrets like “working too hard” and “not being happy enough.”
Play facilitates social bonding and keeps us in touch with friends. It
can even be an indicator of what kinds of activities we ought to pursue
in our work to “express our true selves” and “realize our dreams."
It’s important to get out and frolic a bit or, as Nietzsche would put
it, “Hit the dance floor and shake your tail feathers” (which is
probably not how Nietzsche would put it, but you get the idea).
Scientifically Speaking
Play is just plain fun, which is a reason enough to want more of it
but there are also scientific reasons to believe that play is
instrumentally vital for well being.
Psychology has recently gotten serious about play and its benefits
for kids and adults alike. Studies suggest that flirting, humor,
imagination, sports and other forms of play bolster positive emotions,
creativity, engagement, relationships and even achievement.
I’m not going to delve off into the nitty-gritty of any particular
studies, as my purpose is more of a philosophical persuasion in favor of
more play, but I’ve included links (see bottom of page) that I
recommend for further reading. What I’d like to emphasize is that these
are not just intuitions or flights of argumentative fancy; the
scientific community has much to say about the value of play. Here are
some examples:
- It’s been shown that play is generally lacking in individuals who end up in jail.
- Time for play is often abundant in the lives of those considered to be creative types.
- Just getting up and wiggling your body playfully can improve your mood.
- Social play improves relationships.
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Taking time to play can make you more productive.
As Positive Psychology superhero Christopher E. Peterson put it, play is
“…a robust predictor of how satisfied we are with our lives.”
Personally Speaking
This isn’t going to be one of those
“Hey, I was a schmuck, but now I’m awesome”
kind of stories where I discovered play and my life transformed
overnight, but I did have a eureka moment that helped me reengineer many
of my habits and thought patterns in a positive way.
Back in my university days, I was depressed. I was having trouble
getting out of bed to face the day and it seriously sucked. There was at
least a full year there where people would say I wasn’t my usual
happy-go-lucky self and they’d continually prod me to find out what was
wrong.
Thankfully, I was living next to a
fascinating woman who
helped me out of my funk. Olivia was one of the all-time eccentrics. I
would usually run into her while she walked her pet chinchilla through
the nearby park (shoeless of course). She’d read me poems she had
written about her past lives. She informed me that during her
psychedelics phase that she had taken LSD over 200 times. She was 65
years old. She was a hippie, a philosopher, a published author and one
of the most authentically caring people I’ve known.
One day I decided to share my life’s concerns with her. Her response?
"Have more fun." She said it simply and with the kind of conviction
that comes from a lifetime of experience. It was her mantra and I think
it’s one of the all time greatest pieces of advice I’ve ever received.
It resonated with me and helped me reprioritize my activity in a way
that got me up and moving.
There are some compelling reasons to think that play is more than
just a good time. Philosophically, scientifically and personally, I
think it’s a bonafide necessity. If you agree, take a couple hours this
week to “have more fun.”
Further reading:
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Taylor Kreiss is the founder of Oughtology,
a movement focused on using positive psychology and philosophy to live
The Good Life. For more articles like this one and to like Oughtology,
go here.
